Asking someone to marry you is one of the biggest decisions you’ll make in your entire life, and their answer to your question is one of the biggest decisions they’ll ever make. Whether you’re the asker or the askee, you’re basically stating to the world that you’re willing to share nearly everything in your life with this person forever. That can be a really intimidating thought, and that’s okay. If you get a little nervous when you think about that “forever,” it means you understand the gravity of the situation you’re entering into. However, if you’re completely terrified when you think about that “forever,” you’re probably not ready for an engagement. How do you know when you’re ready, and how do you figure out the answers to all the decisions that need to be made before popping the question? Here’s a handy guide to getting engaged from your Austin jewelry store.
Unsurprisingly, the strongest relationships are built on a foundation of communication. If you’re going to marry someone, you should be able to talk about pretty much everything with them, including hypothetical future events such as marriage. If you’re feeling like you might be ready to marry your partner, pluck up your courage and start a conversation. Try an opening line like “I’m just curious: have you ever thought about the two of us getting married?” Be prepared to speak honestly about your own feelings and to listen without judgment to your partner’s feelings. If the two of you aren’t in exactly the same place, it’s probably okay. You may decide together to shelve this topic for a certain period of time or until some milestone occurs. Remember that your relationship is yours and your partner’s alone, and it’s okay if your timeline doesn’t match up with what other people expect you to do.
If you and your partner are both interested in getting engaged in the relatively near future, it’s time to start thinking about when and where you want to propose. As you and your partner discuss the idea of marriage, either in your initial conversation or in subsequent ones, try to suss out important details: would your partner appreciate you asking for their parents’ blessing before you propse, or would they find that too old-fashioned? Would they prefer you pick out an engagement ring for them, or would they rather help you pick it out after the proposal? If you’re unsure about how to handle any of these decisions, seek help from a couple of their close friends, people who know them well and with whom they may have discussed weddings or engagements at some point (and who can keep a secret!).
As you make plans for the engagement, you’ll need to decide whether to pop the question in public or in private. One benefit of doing it in public is that people can take pictures of the proposal for you, especially if they know what you’re planning ahead of time. However, sharing the moment between just the two of you can be extremely romantic. Many people choose to propose marriage on holidays, especially Valentine’s Day, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year’s Eve, or on their partner’s birthday. Proposing while on vacation is also popular, whether you’re camping in the woods or on a romantic beach or at the Wizarding World of Harry Potter. Some people love a grand gesture that involves skywriting or the JumboTron at a major sporting event, while others love a no-frills proposal at a nice restaurant or during movie night at home. (Whatever you do, don’t hide a ring inside food or drink in case it accidentally gets ingested, and don’t steal the thunder from someone else’s event, such as another couple’s wedding or your mom’s retirement party!)
If you plan to pick out the engagement ring yourself, take a good look at your partner’s Austin jewelry collection to get a sense of their likes and dislikes, and consult with their close friends and a professional at Copeland Jewelers. If you can’t find a ready-made ring that seems perfect, or if you really want something totally unique, ask about collaborating with a Copeland’s jeweler on a custom-designed piece that will take your partner’s breath away! When the time is right for you to get engaged, Copeland Jewelers in Austin is the place to go!